I spent about an hour last night discussing business ethics with a group of 20-22 year olds. Two of them admitted having fudged their income on applications in order to qualify for car loans.
“So you lied.” I said, matter-of-factly, but without judgement.
They went on to tell me how they had reviewed their finances and were more than equipped to pay the payments. One even had six months worth of payments in savings so he was sure that upping his income on the application would not have a negative outcome on the bank.
“That’s cool,” I told him. “But then you lied.”
This led to a 30 minute discussion about what it means to lie and how these individuals viewed our culture as one where lying is taught, rewarded and necessary. As the conversation wound down, someone said:
I lie…but I’m not a liar.
The response from the rest of the group was overwhelming.
“Yes, that’s it. I lie, but I’m not a liar.”
We discussed it further and I will share those insights in a future post, but for now I’ll put it to you.
What do you make of the notion that we can lie and not be liars? What’s the line between, say, talking your way out of a speeding ticket and exaggerating your income on a loan application? Love to hear your thoughts…

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